How to Not Give up Life. An honest conversation…

Tonight I did a Facebook Live Webinar called…

How to not give up on life.

The topic is a little uncharacteristically deeper for me. I’m kind of known for my humor, but lately, this topic has just been on my heart!

So, I hope you will listen. I hope you will add to the comments either on youtube or facebook.

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Here are my notes from the webinar.

Even when the pain is at it’s worst, God is up to something great

  • Pain hurts. Relational pain. We get our feelings hurt and we withdrawal. Emotional pain. We give someone our trust and they break it and the pain is unbearable. We attempt something huge and we fall flat on our face.

  • Or, someone gets sick and we don’t know why. The pain is overwhelming. You get fired. You loaned someone money and they lost it.

  • You decided to give this God thing a try and you start coming to church every single Sunday and life gets worse for you!

  • You decided to give this tithing a try and your finances get harder!

  • Here’s what Helen Keller said about suffering…

The world is full of suffering, it is also full of overcoming it. –Helen Keller

  • Just a reminder that there was only a perfect environment once in the history of mankind. And that was when God created Man and he put him in the garden. No sin. No shame. No pain. No hurt. No suffering. Then, when man got lonely, he created woman. Yeah, that was good. Then, together they broke God’s only rule and ate of the forbidden fruit from the tree of life.

  • Bam. Sin flooded into the world. Darkness. Pain. Suffering. Hurt. Loss. Guilt. Anger. Bitterness. Envy. Yup, they all rushed into the world.

  • Since that day, man has had to deal with sin. And, like we talk about at Thrive every Sunday, that sin separates us from having a personal relationship with God. We’ve all sinned. And, that sin keeps us from having a personal relationship with God. We just can’t get close. Doesn’t matter if we confess to a priest, pay penance, do good stuff, show up to church and look and act the right way. We can’t do anything to make it right.

  • Only Jesus could make it right. He was the perfect sacrifice. He took our place and he suffered the penalty for our sin. He did what needed to be done. And, because of that, He gave us a chance to repent and surrender our heart to him.

  • When we confess of our sins, give our lives to Jesus and surrender our hearts to Him, we become children of God and we’re saved from an eternity a part from God.

  • That is the amazing news of the Gospel.

  • But, even when you cross the line of faith, there are no promises that life is going to be easy. That pain and failure and suffering are going to steer away from you.

  • James actually said this in the book of James in the New Testament in the Bible.

‘Consider it a sheer gift, friends, when tests and challenges come at you from all sides. You know that under pressure, your faith-life is forced into the open and shows its true colors.’ ~James 1:2-3 (msg)

  • James doesn’t say if you face trials or challenges or failure, but whenever you do.

  • He assumes that we will have them and that it is possible to profit from them. The point is not to pretend to be happy when we face pain, but to have a positive outlook (consider it pure joy) because of what trials can produce in our lives.

  • James tells us to turn our hardships into times of learning. Tough times can teach us perseverance and patience and draw us closer to Jesus.

  • Why? I love what Tim Keller (an amazing pastor and author said about this in his book…Walking with God through pain and suffering).

“Suffering is actually at the heart of the Christian story.” ~ Tim Keller

  • We could not be saved without suffering. Jesus had to suffer for us and suffering is at the heart of our story.

  • That doesn’t mean though that God is out to get us! I love what Bob Goff (author of LOVE DOES…a MUST READ) says…

  • “God doesn’t enjoy seeing us fail; He loves watching us grow’

  • Can you remember a time when the pain of failure just about did you in?

What Kind of ‘Failure’ Pain?

  • There’s a God given failure pains

God Given (Exodus 14:5-22)

  • The story of Moses leading the children of Israel out of Egypt. They get out, under the rule as slaves and then they run into a big body of water and then they see that the Pharaoh brought his entire army after them.

  • They are complaining. They are mad.

  • God brought them there. They followed God and now they were suffering some God given pain.

“Suffering is unbearable if you aren’t certain that God is for you and with you.” ~Tim Keller

My own fault pain (2 Samuel 2:2-27)

  • 2 Samuel 2 has a story of King David out for a stroll one night on his palace roof and wouldn’t you know it, he sees a beautiful woman taking a shower not too far off. And, because he’s the king, he sends people to go get her.

  • He sleeps with her. He’s married, she’s married.

  • She gets pregnant. Her husband is a war hero. He calls him home and tries to get him drunk so everyone will think He got her pregnant. The guy is so honorable that he sleeps at the gate because his men are fighting. Finally he gets sent back with a letter from the King telling the General to put Uriah towards the front so he will be killed.

  • David screwed up. And, this is the man that God himself said is a man after my own heart.

  • Crushing my own fault kind of pain.

Who the heck knows pain.

  • Lastly, Who the heck knows kind of pain.

  • The apostle Paul wrote this in 2 Corinthians…

“Three times I pleased with the Lord to take it away from me. But, he said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness’.

  • Sometimes the pain and suffering from life and from failure will just be so heavy!

  • And, don’t believe the old saying…’God would never give me more than I could handle’. That’s a line of not so great stuff!

  • When Paul wrote those words, he was sick, beaten.

  • But, with God’s strength in our weakness, He will get us through.

  • So, remember

Big Idea: Even when the pain is at it’s worst, God is up to something great

  • I find, just to when I think I couldn’t be more broken, that’s when God intervenes and floods my heart with hope and joy and goodness and peace and self control and love.

  • If we’re going to find beauty in the pain, remember this…

ONE…Ask for Help.

  • I love what Corrie Ten Boom said…

You may never know that JESUS is all you need, until JESUS is all you have. –Corrie Ten Boom

  • David was at his wit’s end and he wrote this Psalm. It’s kind of become one of my favorites.

Is anyone crying for help? God is listening, ready to rescue you. If your heart is broken, you’ll find God right there; if you’re kicked in the gut, he’ll help you catch your breath. Disciples so often get into trouble; still, God is there every time.

Psalm 34:17-19 (msg)

  • The moment worry comes on. The moment anxiety runs high. Start to pray. Call out to God.

  • And, don’t do it all old school style.

  • Talk to God like he’s real and you want Him to hear.

TWO…Take one day at a time

Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own. Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track. Don’t assume that you know it all. Run to God! Run from evil! Your body will glow with health, your very bones will vibrate with life! Honor God with everything you own; give him the first and the best. Your barns will burst, your wine vats will brim over.

Proverbs 3:5-9 (msg)

THREE…Remember who you follow

So if you’re serious about living this new resurrection life with Christ, act like it. Pursue the things over which Christ presides. Don’t shuffle along, eyes to the ground, absorbed with the things right in front of you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ—that’s where the action is. See things from his perspective.

Colossians 3:1-2 (msg)

FOUR…Run towards Jesus

So let God work his will in you. Yell a loud no to the Devil and watch him scamper. Say a quiet yes to God and he’ll be there in no time. Quit dabbling in sin. Purify your inner life. Quit playing the field. Hit bottom, and cry your eyes out. The fun and games are over. Get serious, really serious. Get down on your knees before the Master; it’s the only way you’ll get on your feet. James 4:7-10

In this world you will have tribulation, but be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world. –Jesus Christ

The most beautiful people are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

But pain insists upon being attended to. God whispers to us in our pleasures, speaks in our conscience, but shouts in our pains: it is His megaphone to rouse a deaf world. –C.S. Lewis

Verse of the week: And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose. ~Romans 8:28 (niv)

Big Idea: Even when the pain is at it’s worst, God is up to something great

  • Don’t give up.

  • Every step of the way, look for the beauty.

  • Don’t ignore the little wins.

  • Take one day at a time.

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