It seems like sometimes we are super proud of being busy. Doesn’t it?
‘Oh my goodness, its so great to see you, its been so long’…’yeah, I’ve been so busy’
‘How’s life? ‘…’busy’.
‘Gosh, we’ve missed you on Sunday’s’…’Yeah, we’re just so busy’
‘How are you doing?’…’Busy’
‘Can you be a part?’…Gosh, I really want to be, but I’m so busy’
I wonder though, is God cool with us being so busy?
“Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes. ~Matthew 6:34 (the message)
Life is Busy
It really is. I have piles of work. I could work 70 hours a week and still have meetings and projects and messages to write and calls to return and requests to pray over. The first two years of Thrive Church, I worked 70+ hours a week, easily. I was proud of that.
I don’t think God was. Now, don’t get me wrong. God loves when we work hard! God has given us the gift of work! Work is good! We should work hard! But, it’s not life.
Quiet down before God,
be prayerful before him.
Don’t bother with those who climb the ladder,
who elbow their way to the top. ~Psalm 37:7 (the message)
But, Life is Busy
Families are crazy busy. Aren’t they? Sports and a little more sports. Band, cheer, swimming, homework, school stuff, youth group, play dates, doctor appointments, daycare, and the list goes on and on.
But, did God wired us to be this busy? Do we work best when we have absolutely no margin in life? Because all that busyness robs us of margin. And we need margin.
Margin helps us recharge. Margin helps us rest. Margin helps us dream. Margin helps regain our footing.
If you don’t have time to have dinner as a family, you’re probably to busy. If you don’t have time for Church, you’re probably to busy. If you don’t have time to read God’s work, you’re way to busy. If you don’t have time to take a walk with your kids, you’re probably to busy.
How do we slow down?
Isn’t that the question!?! Forever, I wore the badge of busyness as a symbol to the world that I was someone. Forever, I said to every speaking engagement and trip that came my way. I think down deep I thought I was actually someone for having a very full schedule.
Now, we need busyness sometimes, right? We need to work! We need the extra work! I get that. Trust me, I get that. One of the primary reasons I travel and speak is to provide for my family. Yes, I love to preach and teach. I love to share the Gospel. But, it also helps me provide for my family.
I think the lesson about Busyness that’s taken me forever to learn is…
I don’t have to say YES to everything.
Wow, isn’t that the truth. My kids don’t have to do everything. My schedule doesn’t need to be jammed pack. We don’t have to run our kids around everywhere if we don’t want to.
I don’t have to say YES to everything. We don’t have to say YES to everything.
I don’t think we were created to say YES to everything.
Rest is actually pretty important to God. Sabbath is a big deal. If we don’t spend time engaging in both, it will catch up to us.
Changes I’ve been trying to make
For most of my ministry career, I operated with one day off a week. I know, I know. Don’t Pastors only work one day a week? Hah, hah, hah! No, actually, we have a 24/7 job. It’s very demanding. But, it’s also so rewarding. So, I’m trying to take off at least 2 days a week or a day and a half.
I’m trying to not work at night. For so long, I came home from work and then worked again. I’m working hard to not do that.
I’m trying hard to not answer calls during our family time. I have been so bad at this. During dinner, during drives, during walks. I have to stop. My family is to important.
I’m making sure my schedule is first filled with the Big Rocks. I need a quiet time. I need to read every day. I need to spend a good amount of time on my message. I need to take my kids out. I need to spend time with my wife.
I’m trying to not say YES to everything. That’s hard for me. But, I want to say no more than I say yes.
I want to live this way…
“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” ~Jesus
How about you? How do you handle busyness?