Why are we so proud of being busy all the time? I wonder if God is…

It seems like sometimes we are super proud of being busy. Doesn’t it?

‘Oh my goodness, its so great to see you, its been so long’…’yeah, I’ve been so busy’

‘How’s life? ‘…’busy’. 

‘Gosh, we’ve missed you on Sunday’s’…’Yeah, we’re just so busy’

‘How are you doing?’…’Busy’

‘Can you be a part?’…Gosh, I really want to be, but I’m so busy’

I wonder though, is God cool with us being so busy?

“Give your entire attention to what God is doing right now, and don’t get worked up about what may or may not happen tomorrow. God will help you deal with whatever hard things come up when the time comes. ~Matthew 6:34 (the message)

Life is Busy 

It really is. I have piles of work. I could work 70 hours a week and still have meetings and projects and messages to write and calls to return and requests to pray over. The first two years of Thrive Church, I worked 70+ hours a week, easily. I was proud of that.

I don’t think God was. Now, don’t get me wrong. God loves when we work hard! God has given us the gift of work! Work is good! We should work hard! But, it’s not life.

Quiet down before God,
    be prayerful before him.
Don’t bother with those who climb the ladder,
    who elbow their way to the top. ~Psalm 37:7 (the message)

But, Life is Busy

Families are crazy busy. Aren’t they? Sports and a little more sports. Band, cheer, swimming, homework, school stuff, youth group, play dates, doctor appointments, daycare, and the list goes on and on.

But, did God wired us to be this busy? Do we work best when we have absolutely no margin in life? Because all that busyness robs us of margin. And we need margin.

Margin helps us recharge. Margin helps us rest. Margin helps us dream. Margin helps regain our footing. 

If you don’t have time to have dinner as a family, you’re probably to busy. If you don’t have time for Church, you’re probably to busy. If you don’t have time to read God’s work, you’re way to busy. If you don’t have time to take a walk with your kids, you’re probably to busy.

How do we slow down? 

Isn’t that the question!?! Forever, I wore the badge of busyness as a symbol to the world that I was someone. Forever, I said to every speaking engagement and trip that came my way. I think down deep I thought I was actually someone for having a very full schedule.

Now, we need busyness sometimes, right? We need to work! We need the extra work! I get that. Trust me, I get that. One of the primary reasons I travel and speak is to provide for my family. Yes, I love to preach and teach. I love to share the Gospel. But, it also helps me provide for my family.

I think the lesson about Busyness that’s taken me forever to learn is…

I don’t have to say YES to everything. 

Wow, isn’t that the truth. My kids don’t have to do everything. My schedule doesn’t need to be jammed pack. We don’t have to run our kids around everywhere if we don’t want to.

I don’t have to say YES to everything. We don’t have to say YES to everything.

I don’t think we were created to say YES to everything.

Rest is actually pretty important to God. Sabbath is a big deal. If we don’t spend time engaging in both, it will catch up to us.

Changes I’ve been trying to make

For most of my ministry career, I operated with one day off a week. I know, I know. Don’t Pastors only work one day a week? Hah, hah, hah! No, actually, we have a 24/7 job. It’s very demanding. But, it’s also so rewarding. So, I’m trying to take off at least 2 days a week or a day and a half.

I’m trying to not work at night. For so long, I came home from work and then worked again. I’m working hard to not do that.

I’m trying hard to not answer calls during our family time. I have been so bad at this. During dinner, during drives, during walks. I have to stop. My family is to important.

I’m making sure my schedule is first filled with the Big Rocks. I need a quiet time. I need to read every day. I need to spend a good amount of time on my message. I need to take my kids out. I need to spend time with my wife.

I’m trying to not say YES to everything. That’s hard for me. But, I want to say no more than I say yes.

I want to live this way…

“Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you’ll recover your life. I’ll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won’t lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you’ll learn to live freely and lightly.” ~Jesus

How about you? How do you handle busyness?

Parents…4 Ways to have an incredible school year with your family

Another school year is starting! It’s just crazy how fast the summer flies by! But, here we are and instead of just letting the school year start, I thought about putting together a plan for my family.

You see, I want this to be our best school year yet for our 11th, 9th, 7th and 3rd grader.

Before I go into the list, I guess I should lay the foundation to how our family approaches school and education. Because it’s a bit different than most.

  • It is NOT the school’s responsibility to teach our kids character. It is ours as parents.
  • School is not life. We’re a bit different here than most. We’re more concerned about our kids being actively engaged and involved with their Church than school activities. That doesn’t mean we pull our kids from sports or band or yearbook or all that stuff. School activities are just not our priority.

Here’s why: The Local Church is the most important organization on planet earth. Jesus loved the church enough to die for it. That means its pretty darn important. So, we try to model that importance to our kids and as a family. 

  • We understand that school becomes a mission field for our kids. I grew up in private Christian schools from K-12. I loved my experience. I loved the bible teaching and the chapels. If there were a great evangelical christian school in our area, we would pray about sending our kids to it. But, there isn’t. And, we think as our kids have gotten older and their faith has become more of their own, it’s been awesome to see them represent Jesus and their Church at their school.
  • Straight A’s and perfect attendance is not our goal for our kids. Our goal is for them to love Jesus, love their family, love their Church and live out the fruit of the spirit. Now, we push our kids to do great in school. So, I’m not saying we settle for less than A’s and B’s. But, if our kids got straight A’s and had no character and bullied kids at their school, we failed!

5 Ways to make this the best year yet!

ONE….Pray with your family EVERY Day! Yup, I know–I know, it kind of sounds impossible. Maybe its not for some of you, but my family falls way short on this and I wish it wasn’t so!

But, we’re going to make very attempt to pray together as a family…EVERYDAY! We did ok with this last year, this year we will do much better!

TWO…Eat dinner together at least 3 times a week. Again, for our family with 4 kids and lots of stuff going on, this has become harder and harder. But, like Andy Stanley says…we have to choose to cheat. We will cheat on other stuff and choose our family time this year. Something so cool happens when you all sit down and eat and talk and laugh and enjoy each other.

THREE…Sit down and write out a DREAM wall. Super easy, super important. Set goals for the year. Write down families and kids you’re going to pray for. Write down goals of who you want to invite to church. Write down goals you want to experience as a family.

FOUR…Figure out ways you can bless your kids teachers. I love teachers. After speaking at assemblies in schools, I gained a new perspective and love for teachers. So often, it’s a thankless job. Pray for your kids teachers.

We have spent a ton of time over the years reminding our kids that they can ask their teachers if they can help them. To thank them. To encourage them.

What am I missing? I bet, with this short list, we can have a great school!

Keep Calm its Sunday Morning! Wait, don’t keep calm! It’s SUNDAY!!!!

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It’s Sunday morning! The absolute best part of the week! Why? Because we have the amazing privilege of being a part of something that Jesus gave His life for…

The local Church!

Plus, I couldn’t sleep last night and spend a great deal of time praying for you and I’m PUMPED!! Geeked! EXCITED! Ready to go!!
 
So, don’t miss your chance to
  • GATHER TOGETHER with your Church this morning!
  • Don’t miss your chance to WORSHIP YOUR GOD with your Church.
  • Don’t miss your chance to SERVE other people in your Church.
  • Don’t miss your chance to receive COMMUNION and celebrate and remember what Jesus did on the cross.
  • Don’t miss your chance to MEET new people and LOVE people!
 
It’s super easy to MISS, isn’t it? All Satan does is put excuses in our heads. So, don’t. Plus, I bet God has something HUGE for you this morning!!
 
…If you’re SERVING, please be at Volunteer Central by 8:30am.
…Come early and sit by someone new. Sit close!!
…Say hi to people. Shake hands or wave at folks.
…Worship LOUD. Raise your hands, Close your eyes. Pour out your heart to Jesus.
…Laugh and Learn during the message on how God is for the Worrier.
…GIVE. Yup, give financially. Give sacrificially. Give cheerfully.
 
> > 2 Reasons to be at Thrive > >
 
ONE…It’s the last week of ‘No Perfect People Allowed’. The conclusion is going to be awesome. God is for the Worrier.
 
TWO…We’ll continue the celebration from last week by watching the Baptism and BBQ highlight video!! One of Thrive’s best days ever!!
 
Alright, we’ll see you soon! I’m praying for you! Can’t wait to see you!
 
Jason
 
PS…Don’t forget about next Sunday. It’s called ‘You Asked for It’ Sunday. Dr. Tom and I are going to answer your questions on God, Life, Theology and Faith. Just email them to youaskedforit@thrivechurchmi.cc or text them to 989 572 0439.

Do Pastors try to hard to get people to attend or be a part Church?

Ok, its late. I’m normally not up this late. So, I know I really messed up my ‘to’s’ in the subject line. To be honest with you, I always mess them up! People in my church must think I’m illiterate sometimes!

But, this question has been swirling around in my head lately. And, these thoughts are kind of all over the place, so forgive me.

Do Pastors try to hard to get people to attend or be a part Church? 

I think its a fair question. I’ve read just about every article and blog post on either side of this question.

Us Pastors, we LOVE the Church! And, why would we not want EVERYONE to be involved. To be ALL IN. To be passionate about their local church.

I can scroll for 20 seconds and see my Pastor friends posting videos and pictures about how this Sunday is going to be the most awesome Sunday ever and how people shouldn’t miss.

I am that Pastor! I believe it!

But, should we try to hard? 

I’ve read some very passionate people who think the Church expects way too much out of people and needs to settle down the ‘asks’.

I’ve read some very passionate people who think the Church is the most important organization on the planet and that’s why they’re unashamed when it comes to asking for more and more commitments.

I have experienced both ends of this question and everything in between!

I have and continue to asked a lot

I am on the side of the equation that believes that the Church is the Hope of the World, so I have asked a lot of people! I have asked people to give, to sacrifice, to invest to invite, to bring, to share and to be excited.

I’ve had seasons, especially when we started the church, that I tried to be all things to everyone. I personally messaged hundreds of people every week and invited them to Thrive. I sent emails. I sent handwritten cards. I sent a lot of texts. Now, I really do enjoy doing that! Why? Because I love people’s stories!!

I began to notice that I could see a spike in attendance when I hit all cylinders of social media and reaching out.

But, the down side was…I was trying to be all things to everyone. And, as our Church grew, especially after 400 people, I couldn’t keep it up. I couldn’t respond to all the texts and all the messages. It was hard. I let people down. Almost every text started with…’I am so sorry it has taken so long to respond’.

So, I slowed down.

I asked a lot less

I’ve had seasons where I’ve received a decent amount of criticism, especially when it comes to asking people to make a commitment to honor God with their finances. Whew boy! I have taken some hits. But, I’ve experienced so many blessings, why would I not teach what the Bible has to say about giving? But, I slowed down.

And, the seasons I really slowed down with all the personal invites, I could see attendance go down a bit.

NOW…these are just my observations. Maybe I’m crazy!

I’m trying to not be the Celebrity Pastor

This is a hilarious thought to me. I am so far from even being considered in the celebrity range. I am not cool. I am short stubby guy. I don’t dress cool. I make up words. Honestly, I can’t. It would be too uncomfortable.

But, it’s easy for the Pastor to become the man. For everyone to go the Pastor. For the Pastor to teach every week. Talk to every person. Lead every project. Teach everything.

I just don’t want to be that way.

I just want Jesus to be the Celebrity in our Church

That’s my goal. For people to be so overwhelmed with His presence, His life and His love that they are…

INSPIRED to be the Church! To not just to attend or be a part. But to BE THE CHURCH!

That’s what I want! That’s why I’ve worked hard to try to do a few things…

  1. Empower the Thrive staff to lead.
  2. Raise up a local leadership team (Both Elders and a Financial team).
  3. Develop a teaching team. We have 4 people on our team and 2 in training.
  4. Teach people how to pray for one another.

I don’t know if it’s making a difference. But, I love my Church, I love THE Church and I’m passionate about people falling in love with Jesus.

What do you think about all this? I would love your thoughts.

3 More days till Bobby comes home!!

My 14 year old, Bobby, has been traveling in Africa since August 1st! IMG_1511

I feel incredibly blessed that he’s gotten this amazing opportunity but

I MISS HIM SO MUCH! 

Wow, I miss him. Tracie misses him. His sibling misses him. His grand parents miss him. His friends miss him! Every one misses him!!

You know Why? Yes, he’s our family.

But, its because he’s an amazing young man!

He really is! He’s a difference maker! He loves Jesus. He loves people and it shows! He’s got an amazing head on his shoulders. He’s polite. He’s caring. He’s a thinker. He’s always looking out for the person who is left out. He’s passionate. His laugh is amazing! His heart is gigantic!

Yes, I’m his dad, so I am little bias! But, I can’t even begin to tell you how proud I am when I go to his room and see cards that other adults from church have sent him sitting on his desk. Cards thanking him for spending time with their kids and loving them!

Oh my goodness!

Our house hasn’t been the same without him. I can’t wait to hug him. I can’t wait to shoot hoops with him. I can’t wait to go for walks. I can’t wait to hear about video games. I can’t wait to hear his laugh and watch him dance!

I can’t wait for Bobby to be home!

Doubt + God’s Word + Trust = Answers. Today at Thrive!!

Today at Thrive Church we’re diving into the world of Doubt. 13958083_1062099020552078_6564991401675748424_o

Ever been there? 

Doubt that God exists? Doubt that God can love someone like you? Doubt that God can love the messy people around you? Doubt that God can be loving when such horrible things happen in this world? Doubt that you can trust God with your life when there are so many people you know who are sick?

Well, today is for you! The reality is, we all have doubts! And if you don’t, are you really being all that honest? How could you not?

We’re going to dive into Matthew 11 and see how one of the greatest prophets in the scriptures had doubts and we’ll see how Jesus handled those doubts.

I’ll give you a little teaser…

Doubts + God’s Word + Trust = Answers

Plus, we’re going to Worship Loud, enjoy coffee and hanging out and our kids are going to have an amazing time in Thrive Kidz!

Join us at either 9 or 1015 at Celebration Cinema!

Monday Morning Thoughts about Life, Family and Ministry @Thrive

Yesterday was a great day! broken

It was my first Sunday teaching at Thrive since July 3rd and I loved every second of it. I only missed a Sunday and a half in July, but it was great to be back teaching.

I took a bit of a break in July. I took off 2 weeks to speak at camps and churches and then I was able to take off a few days for a vacation.

I planned it out months ago and my hope is that each July I’ll take a break like this.

It’s funny, a few years ago you couldn’t have convinced me that I would need a break. Well, wow, I needed the break. I understand now that every Pastor needs to take REST and Sabbath very seriously!

I’m learning an absolute ton about the role of a pastor. I’ve served churches for 20 years, but the pressure on the lead pastor is so much different than anything I’ve experienced in all those years of serving and working for Churches.

Thoughts on Life

It’s amazing how fast life flies by! And then, there are moments that seem to move at a snail’s pace. Like our adoption. Things are progressing, but its a slow go. Our home study was approved, but we’re just waiting for the official signed copy. At that point, we can start applying for grants.

Which will help, because our next round of payments are due and we’ll need to come up with another $3000. But, I know in the end, it will all be worth it! I just can’t wait to have Kai home with us!

Thoughts on Family

At the moment, our 14 year old is in Africa, our 16 year old is in South Carolina and our 8 year old stayed the night at a friends house. That left just Zach home with us! Wow, one kid is a breathe!

But, I miss Bobby and I can’t wait for him to be home! But, I LOVE that he has this amazing opportunity to experience another country!

And, I LOVE that Bekah has an amazing opportunity to travel to South Carolina with two amazing young leaders of Thrive Church and together they are getting a behind the scenes look at one of our favorite Churches…Newspring Church!

Thoughts on Minstry @ Thrive

Yesterday was a spectacular day for our Church! And, in just under 2 weeks, we will baptize between 25-30 people! Wow! Wow! Wow! IMG_4491

Tracie and I went down to the park where our outdoor worship experience is and prayed for that day and the people getting baptized! I can’t wait!

Thrive turns 3 on October 2 and I can’t even believe it! In three short years, I believe, we have made an incredible impact for the Kingdom.

I love my Church and I know the best is yet to come!