Well, here’s the deal…
I think (think being the key word)…
I’m done loving you facebook.
Now, you know me. We go way back. I was so excited to sign up way back when. You know this is a big deal for me to say because I absolutely LOVE you! It’s true, I think you’re awesome. I think you’re one of the greatest things ever and I think you’re one of the best tools ever created to help GROW the Kingdom of God!!
But, there is quite a bit I don’t love about you. Let’s start with that. And, some of this is not your fault.
So, here’s what I DON’T love about you...
- I don’t love the endless mounds of garbage that people post on you. Again, not your fault, but you collect a lot of garbage! A lot of trash!
- I don’t love the ridiculous drama that people create on you. Again, not your fault, but for some reason you seem to attract drama.
- I don’t love that your presence in some peoples lives, seemingly increases there lack of emotional intelligence. Again, not your fault, but self awareness and relational awareness is at an all time low.
- I don’t love how awful Jesus followers treat each other sometimes on your site. Again, not your fault, but my heart has broken hundreds of times reading peoples thoughts that they post in the name of being a Christ follower.
- I don’t love how sometimes, you give people a false sense of identity. Ok, maybe this is your fault. That little like button causes havoc in peoples lives. They worry about getting more likes and more comments. I’ve been there.
- I don’t love how people can sometimes feel excluded when they see all their friends partying and hanging out. Again, not your fault, but I’ve learned to be careful from posting because sometimes my posts attract some passive aggressive comments.
Again, I’m sorry! Most of this isn’t your fault! After working with middle school students for 15 years, most of the conversations I’ve had with adults about their struggles with you, remind me of middle school problems. That’s not your fault.
You just seem to amplify problems sometimes.
I’ve only been off of you for a week, but here’s what I’ve already noticed:
- I’m not as anxious. I’m not a conflict guy. I can deal with it, but I don’t go searching for it. For some people, they love the conflict that they can create on Facebook. I don’t need that in my life.
- I’m hopefully more present with my family. Countless times over the last few years I have been buried in my phone as we’ve hung out as a family. Shameful!
- I’ve spent more time reading and reading things that matter. Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE reading peoples thoughts and posts! I love it! But, 75% of those posts are not helpful at all and I don’t miss those. I’m reading through the Old Testament and I’m working through my read pile!
- I’ve noticed how much people are buried in their phones. Outside of my Youversion app, email, text and calls, I don’t really have much reason to pick up my phone. I’m not a big video game guy, so I don’t even have that. And, I’ve noticed how much people scroll through you as their hanging out with others. I think that’s why I’m going to keep you off my phone for good.
- I’m praying a lot more. Instead of scrolling through your news feeds, I try to talk to Jesus more. That’s been really good for my heart, by the way.
I’ll be back. Don’t worry. I know you miss me. I know your algorythms are wondering why there are no posts on www.facebook.com/jraitz.
Side note: I am still blogging on this social media fast and when I post those, they automatically update to Facebook).
So, you’re still getting a few rhythms, but not many.
We’ll see how I am in 21 day more days. I think I’ll be back. I think.
But, for sure Facebook…
I’m done loving you.