I’ve been a dad for 13 years.
My wife and I have 4 kids…
- Rebekah, 13
- Bobby, 11
- Zach, 9
- Madison, 5
We are in no way…parenting experts or a super parents.
But, we love our kids and for us, there is nothing more important in our lives than doing a great job as a mom and dad.
We don’t always succeed at doing our best, some days are better than others, some days are awful.
But, we’ve learned a ton in 13 years of being parent and almost 20 years of working with students at local churches.
Here’s the classic parenting problem: we put way too much pressure on being…
We want to do everything right. We want everything to go right. We want everything about our kids to be right.
It’s just unrealistic. Lately, instead of trying so hard to be perfect, I’ve been thinking about a few little wins that could help and guide us as parents. And, thank you to my friend Tom Elmore for helping brainstorm this list with me.
3 Easy Ways to Win as a Parent
Yup, it’s that simple. Too often parents spend so much time doing the talking and not merely enough time doing the listening.
The awesome thing about asking questions is you don’t have to wait till your kids are teenagers. Start right away. Build a culture of question asking in your family. Once you do they’ll learn it and start asking questions as well.
Asking questions is one of the best ways to get to know somebody and to build depth in our relationships. It show you care and shows you’re interested in really knowing someone.
A few question ideas…
- Whose your favorite super hero?
- What do you love about mom or dad?
- If you could go anywhere, where would you go?
- What’s your favorite Jesus story?
- What’s your biggest bummer in your life?
- Would you rather questions
Be the Expert
Work hard at being a genuine and authentic expert about your kids. Too often we think we know our kids, but if we’re honest, we haven’t spent the time asking questions to really become an expert.
Take notes. Really listen to their answers. Pay attention to how they respond in different situations.
As your kids get older, more and more people will try to become experts in your kids lives. That’s way its of utmost importance for moms and dads to be real and true experts.
We all love stories. Stories have the ability of inspiring life change. They lift us up. They teach us about the past. They remind us of better times and worse times. They inspire us. They encourage us!
Our kids love to hear stories from our childhood, from before they were born, from when they were little and from stuff we experienced together.
Share stories together. Do it at dinner. Do it around a fire. Do it in the car.
These aren’t super difficult and you’ve probably already thought of these, but I hope they’re good reminders of some easy ways we can win as parents.