I have been on facebook since 2007. For the first couple of years, I sort of you used it. These last couple of years, I probably use it too much.
I’m a huge believer in facebook. I’m a huge believer in social media.
I have heard all the negative and all the positive.
I know it’s not perfect, but I think it’s a great tool. Especially to build relationships and let people know what’s going on their worlds.
I’m shocked that more leaders don’t use it. (I’m posting more about that later this week)
All that being said, for the first time in my life I was reported to facebook. I sent a friend request to a youth pastor that I wanted to connect with but didn’t know him and he reported me! That has never happened before.
I got a nice message from facebook saying if it happened again, my facebook privilege to friend request would be suspended.
This little ordeal has made me think about facebook and I came up with my own rules for facebook.
Here are my personal rules to facebook:
1. I never unlike or de-friend someone. It just won’t happen. I’ve had friends disown me and they’ve de-friended me, but I’m not in the business of cleaning up my friend list. What’s the point? Yeah, yeah, I know what some people say…”I don’t need to know what Tom had for dinner”. I get that, but you know what, I’m in the relationship business and facebook gives me a great insight into many lives and how I can be praying for them.
2. I accept every friend request. I just do. I know that’s not for everyone. But, again, I’m in the people business. As a follower of Christ, I’ve been the charge to love everyone and a great way to get a glimpse at their timeline.
3. I reply to every message. I may not do it in a timely manner, but I eventually reply. There have been times, I know, I have messed up and not replied, but I try.
4. I try to be as authentic and transparent as I can. One of my life goals is to live this way regardless of facebook, so I want to be the same person in person that I am on facebook. Too many people try to be someone their not on facebook. They act like they have it all together and they use an air of superiority as they write. If I write that way, call me on it.
5. I don’t friend request complete strangers. Unless…we have something or someone in common.
6. I don’t friend request anyone under the age of 18. I speak to a lot of middle and high school students. I am only friends with them because they requested me.
7. I attempt for my posts to be strategic. I usually try to think strategically about my posts. I try to post about…
- My family. Updates, pictures, funny stories, things like that. I know some people and some leaders don’t want people to have an inside look at their families and I guess I can respect that. But, goodness, what an incredible tool for people to be praying for your family. I get so many messages from people saying they’re praying for my kids after I post pictures of them. Now, maybe they’re praying for my kids because they have me as a dad! hah!
- My Passions. I write about a lot about leadership, relationships, students, church growth, small groups, and speaking.
8. I try to be over the top encouraging! I attempt to write happy birthday on everyone’s wall that I’m a facebook friend with. If somebody asks me to like something, I will. I try to leave as many encouraging comments that I can.
9. I try to share information. I am a information-aholic! I love to share articles and books and music and resources.
10. I try to represent Jesus as best as I can. I have many facebook friends who are believers and I have many who are not. My hope is that I represent Him well.
Those are my personal rules to Facebook.
What am I missing? What are yours?