You’re Invited to Thrive Church

Yes, that’s right…you’re invited to Thrive Church. We meet at Celebration Cinema at 930am! Bring your kids, your family and friends.


Tomorrow is a HUGE day for Thrive…here’s why:2013-08-16 13.38.12

1. It’s our last monthly service! This will be our sixth and final monthly service. Come tomorrow to find out why.

2. We have the privilege of gathering together! I love the community that God has brought together and I can’t wait to see everybody.

3. Our community is building bonds with each other! It’s one thing for me to be excited about connecting with everybody, but, it’s awesome that they are connecting with each other.

4. We’re meeting outdoors. We discovered a scheduling glitch with the theater and instead of seeing it as a Problem, we saw it as an opportunity. So, we’re setting up a tent and meeting outside!

5. I’m teaching about New Life. We’re going to talk about the New Life we have in Jesus and how we can move past the stuff that holds us back!

6. It’s our 1st BBQ & Baptism! Right after the service, we head 15 miles to a great park where we will do baptisms in the lake and then have a great BBQ!

Hope to see you tomorrow!

Oh yeah…don’t forget that Thrive exists to help people find and follow God!

Live Now T-Shirts are almost here…

I am very excited!

That seems to be my current theme in my life, but, soon we will be offering 4 different Live Now shirts for people to buy. And, when they do, the profits from those shirts will go to help Live Now partner with schools to help end bullying!

Her’e s a little preview of our upcoming shirts…

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I would be honored if you would consider buying 1 or 2 or 3 of them for yourself and your kids, friends, co-workers, neighbors, relatives, McDonald employees and anybody else you know. Hah!

Information about on to do that will be posted soon!

My Rules for Relationships

Yesterday I wrote about my rules for facebook.

Today, I thought I would write about my rules for relationships.

I believe I am in the relationship business. Actually, I believe every human on planet earth is in the relationship business. We were created to share our lives with each other. Our DNA is hard wired to be connected to other people. I know people who hate other people and try to stay far away. I know people who have been so burned by relationships that they avoid them like the plague. That’s just not the way. If you refuse to forgive those who have hurt you and you continue to seclude yourself from human contact, you’re basically asking for pain to come your way.

Refusal to forgive + seclusion = Pain. 

Here are my (developing) Rules for Healthy Relationships

1. Don’t miss a chance to encourage. Too often we get a thought to encourage someone and we let it pass right by. Can’t do that. I try to send hand written cards as much as I can, comment on their facebook page, text them and tell them face to face.

2. Treat their kids like gold. I learned this from my boss at Willow Creek, Scott Rubin. I’ve never had a boss/friend treat my kids as incredible as Scott did. He went way out of his way to care for them. I learned a ton from him. I want to build trust with my friends kids and treat them like gold.

3. Pray for them. Not just in my prayer closet of journal but on the phone and when we’re together. I learned this lesson from my mentor, Kevin Winnigham. Kevin never misses a chance to pray for me! It means the world to me.

4. Make everything better. My friend Robin Perko has taught my family and I this lesson time and time again. She brings so much energy, passion and life to relationships. She goes the extra mile to make everything better for her friends and family.

5. Don’t ask, offer. Too often, we know in our spirit that our friend needs help and it’s too hard for them to ask. Well, just offer. As Bob Goff says…”Love Does“.

6. Be fully present. I had the privilege of working with someone who taught me this at a whole new lever. My friend Leah Gleason taught me and showed  me how to let go of the distractions, so I could concentrate on being fully present.

7. Believe the best. Life’s too short to play relationship games and second guess everything. I know I have been hurt many times by relationships, but I’ve learned to just believe the best about people.

8. Remember the details. This is one of my passions in life. I want to remember the tiny details of people’s lives. It starts with learning their names, their kids names, what they do, what they love, their birthday, and their favorites.

9. Don’t disappear when their worlds falling a part. I’ve been through a lot in my short almost 37 years on planet earth. What I’ve learned is that most people disappear when their friends go through tragedy. Be there for them. Send them emails, messages, texts and reminders that they’re loved.

10. Say the hard stuff. Not everybody wants to grow. Not everybody thinks that their friends should help them grow. But, I’ve found, once you build a strong relationship with someone you need to say the hard stuff…to help them, to pull them out of their rut and to love them.

I’m probably missing a ton of stuff.

What would you add?

The Question Leaders Are Afraid to Ask

For 17 years I worked/served the local Church. Before that I worked for the city of Southfield as a carpenters apprentice, I worked as a roofer, a sou chef and a baseball/soccer coach for a Christian school. For more than 20 years I have worked around other leaders, under leaders, and have lead others. In that time, I have been lead by good and bad leaders, have lead in good and bad ways and have made lots of good and bad leadership decisions.

I have been a student of leadership since my days in middle school. Even then, I had a desire to be influencer…whether it was from the front or the back.

Leadership is my Passion

Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about my own leadership and the type of leader I have been and the type of leader I have a strong desire to be. I turn 37 in September and this season of life is one where God is teaching me so much. I feel like I’m in a refining and a very challenging time.

Because of all this, I have been thinking about my leadership and leadership in general.

Here are some initial thoughts on the type of leader I want to be…

  • I want to influence people to live a great story with their lives
  • I want to model humility & servanthood
  • I want to be an incredible listener and someone who remembers the depth of the details I was told
  • I want to continually push those in my inner circle to better leaders
  • I don’t want to settle for average and I want to be embrace change
  • I want to be a fully devoted follower of Jesus and lead others to His feet

AND…I want to continually ask the question that I think most leaders are afraid to ask…

What can I do to improve as a Leader?

Don’t get me wrong, lot’s of leaders ask that question. But, typically they ask themselves that question and that’s only one part of the equation.

As leaders, we MUST ask the people we lead or are in close relationship with as well! We must ask for their genuine, truthful and honest opinion. And…we must ask from an open and honest standpoint.

I have found that leaders just don’t ask that question very often.

Why is that?

Our leadership will change for the better is we get over the fear of asking that very powerful question.

So, make a list of both the people you know want to hear that answer from and the people you don’t, and start asking.