Bullying

Facebook 101…The real reason to use facebook

There are so many reasons to use Facebook. Too many to list in this blog post. But, what I hope to convey is what I think, the only real reason to use it.

And yes, I understand I’m going out on a limb a bit.

I’ve been working on a series of posts about Facebook for a few months now and I’m ready to start putting them up. So, here’s my first go at it.

Here’s what I know about Facebook…

It can either greatly improve your life or it can bring a world of negativity into your life.

The great thing is…you get to choose.

It can either encourage you or suck your time away from you.

The great thing is…you get to choose. 

It can either be used a tool to communicate with friends and family or it can be used to spread negativity.

Again, the great thing is…you get to choose. 

This is how powerful this simple online website is! It has the potential to bring life to people. To get them connected. To get them engaged. But, way too often it does the exact opposite. People get more frustrated, they become more envious and jealous and the negativity just fills their mind.

In fact, I would be rich if I had a nickel for every time I heard someone say ‘I’m so tired of the drama on Facebook’.

Ok, so what’s the real reason to use Facebook? Instead of listing a ridiculously long list, I’m just gonna cut to the chase and post what I believe is the only real reason to use Facebook. Here we go:

To bring life to others. 

Yup, I really believe it’s not about you. Its not about me. It’s about bringing hope. Bringing joy. Bringing new ideas. Bringing new connections. Bringing new relationships and encouragement for old ones.

It’s all about…bringing life to others.

Enough with the hate. Enough with the negativity. Enough with the late night woe is me posts. Enough with hiding behind it. Enough with the name calling. Enough with the ‘my life is better than yours’. Enough.

Enough. Please. 

Please just use it to bring life.

Don’t know how? Well, that’s tomorrow’s post.

Stop Listening to the Negative Voices

This is a quick and unedited post. So, please forgive any typos or rambling. 

But, something that has been on my mind a lot lately is how to deal with the negative voices that attack my mind and my heart.

Can you relate?

They remind you that you’re not talented, not smart, not gifted and not going down the right path.

Maybe your voices remind that you will never be able to give up getting drunk, or sleeping around or whatever it is.

Wow, Satan is alive and well and he is good at what he does.

I find the more I step out in faith, the more the attacks come.

I find that when I’m the most tired and worn, the more the attacks come.

I find that when I dwell on the tiny minority of negative criticism, the more the attacks come.

I find that when I’m not filling my heart and my head with scripture, the more the attacks come.

I find that when I’m not spending great time with Jesus, the more the attacks come.

Not sure how you stop the negative voices, but here’s one thought…

Romans 12:2

Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.

Fill your mind with the truth of scripture. Spend great time with Jesus. Seek God.

What if we prayed for others to succeed? No REALLY!

It’s easy to pray for others to succeed, right?images

Yes and No…

It’s easy for me to pray for my wife, my kids, my family, my friends, my church, the leaders I admire, the people I want to have relationships with to succeed. I do that all that time.

I know that’s pretty selfish, but it’s easy, it’s fun and it’s a joy asking God to pour out His blessings and give His favor to the people I really love. I mean, I really want them to succeed!

Done deal, right?!?

Wrong.

Jesus has something absolutely ridiculous to say about taking it a step further and when I say a step…I mean

A HUGE STEP

 “You’re familiar with the old written law, ‘Love your friend,’ and its unwritten companion, ‘Hate your enemy.’ I’m challenging that. I’m telling you to love your enemies. Let them bring out the best in you, not the worst. When someone gives you a hard time, respond with the energies of prayer, for then you are working out of your true selves, your God-created selves. This is what God does. He gives his best—the sun to warm and the rain to nourish—to everyone, regardless: the good and bad, the nice and nasty. If Love-Your-Enemiesall you do is love the lovable, do you expect a bonus? Anybody can do that. If you simply say hello to those who greet you, do you expect a medal? Any run-of-the-mill sinner does that.

~Matthew 5:43-48 (The Message)

Wow! I don’t know if that has set in you, but it hits me like a brick in the face (not that I have ever experienced that!).

Jesus again, does what Jesus does…he upsets the apple cart…BIG TIME. 

Pharisees taught that yes, you should LOVE those near and dear to you (Lev. 19:18) but, they also taught that Israel’s enemies should be hated.  They implied that their hatred was God’s means of judging their enemies.

Oh, but here comes Jesus. Jesus comes right out and says that Israel should demonstrate God’s love even to her enemies!

“He gives his best—the sun to warm and the rain to nourish—to everyone, regardless: the good and bad, the nice and nasty”

What if we prayed for the people who are hard for us to pray for? 

Our competition, our bullies, and the bad and nasty people? Basically, our enemies!

Jesus followers aren’t suppose to have enemies, though, right?

Well, the bummer is, we all do. Family members who don’t understand our commitment to Jesus, co-workers who don’t get our convictions, or other believers who have become upset with you over something.

So, maybe it’s not like a brutal–vicious enemy. But, I guarantee that from time to time you may have relationships go sour, or people who try to compete with you over everything, or out-do you, or bully you or make fun or just simply remind you that you’re not all that great!

So PRAY for their SUCCESS! 

Yeah, I know it’s crazy. But, try it.

Pray for God to give them wild SUCCESS.

Pray for God to unleash the floodgates of Heaven upon them.

Pray for God to bless them…relationally, spiritually, financially, emotionally.

Pray everyday.

Pray humbly.

Pray.

Why do Christians have to bully?

I don’t really have the mental energy to answer this question right now.

But, Gosh, I am so tired of people who say they’re followers of Jesus and bully others.

They bully non-Christians, they bully Christians, they bully their family, they just bully.

I just don’t get it. 

I can’t even begin to count the amount of conversations I have with people who tell me they’ve given up on church or God because their tired of being bullied.

Bullied by…

Their families. Maybe they grew up Catholic or Lutheran or Methodist or whatever and now they’ve decided to attend a church that is not a part of the denomination of their childhood. They get bullied because of it.

Their friends. Yes, their friends. Sometimes friends can’t understand why they would give so much time to a church. Or follow God with their hearts.

Am I wrong? Maybe I’m just seeing it the wrong way.

It’s time to stop.

Everyone needs a Sarah…and a Robin

Years ago I read a book that changed my life. It was written by John Maxwell and it’s called…Partners in Prayerprayer partners

It was at a time in life when I was young and foolish enough to think that I could everything on my own! I actually was under the delusion that I didn’t need help.

Well, I read that book and it changed my life. As soon as I finished it, I recruited my first prayer partner and it wasn’t long until I had a team of people praying for me.

That’s why I believe passionately that…

Everyone needs a Sarah and a Robin!

I’m extremely blessed. Through facebook and through email, I have a team of people from around the country who pray for me and my family and my ministry on a regular basis!

But, here locally in Central MI, I have two incredible women who pray for me. And, wow, do they pray. 

Almost weekly I receive facebook messages from them in the form of prayers.

I can’t even describe how honored I am! It is so humbling to read their prayers and to know that they are genuinely praying for me and for God to use me.

I know, I KNOW, that my impact wouldn’t be as great without their faithful prayers. I am so thankful and I ask God to pour His favor on them daily!

If you don’t have a Sarah and a Robin…I suggest doing everything you can to find some!